It’s possible to split a divorce into three parts which are separation, divorce and the life after divorce. As about half of all marriages end in divorce today, there are obviously millions of couples and even more children from these couples who face each of the three stages listed above. This article tells you once and for all that there is a great deal of free advice for couples involved in any stage of a divorce. You are at liberty to consult a lawyer at any time. But you would be wise to at least study the free advice listed, mainly online, on every aspect of a divorce.
The first thing to learn is that the vast majority of couples come to an agreement over things like shared assets and child custody. One or both spouses may not like the terms of the agreement but studies show that when a judge makes a decision on the issue, generally speaking there are no winners. So another piece of free advice is to sort things out before you go to court.
You should know that unless something really strange is proposed, a judge will endorse an agreement signed by both parties.
Children are obviously an important part of most divorces. As many marriages end before a period of 15 years, there are many children who are still too young to fend for themselves and thus remain the responsibility of their parents. In fact children are often the reason many marriages last as long as they do.
So in choosing to divorce, every spouse should understand that the cost of raising their child or children does not disappear when the marriage ends. In fact child support can be a major part of a divorce. And if the spouse with primary care of the child re-marries, the original order of the court regarding child support may not be changed. So a supporting parent who may be struggling to pay child support may have a former spouse who has re-married and gained wealth a result. It helps to know all the things which may and often do happen following a divorce.
A lawyer, particularly one who deals solely with divorce, will be able to provide expert advice. However, it is possible to do most if not all the legwork for your divorce on your own. The available free online advice is detailed and easy to understand. There are even step by step guides helping you to obtain the required paperwork and instructions on completing them. Many couples today divorce without the use of any lawyer at all.
There are some who would argue that a couple should stay in their marriage if no other reason than for the sake of their children. To counter this some will say the best thing for the children is to be removed from the bitterness of the parents’ marriage.
Whatever action you take, consult as widely as possible. Remember the three stages and know there is almost as much help for the divorced person as there is for someone separated or in the process of obtaining a divorce. It’s a stressful time even in the so-called most friendly of divorces. Help yourself by taking your share of the free divorce advice.
By: Berna Abonita